Many times in a parent's life, they are faced with decisions they want to make for their babies. Sometimes, parents make choices for their kids that can impact them as adults.
Many times in a parent's life, they are faced with decisions they want to make for their babies. Sometimes, parents make choices for their kids that can impact them as adults.
Whether it's fashion choices or haircuts, what mom says usually goes.
Many mothers decide to get their daughter's ears pierced at a young age, usually when they are still infants.
Piercing a baby's ears has become a hotly-debated issue among parents. Some feel it is problematic because the baby cannot consent to the piercing.
Hilary Duff's Instagram was flooded with negative comments when her followers noticed that her daughter's ears were pierced.
"Should’ve waited until she’s older to decide for herself," said one comment.
Amelia Kibbie, wrote an article on Mom.com about her friend who chose to pierce her young daughter's ears.
"When it was my turn to hold her, my eyes fell on her cute little ears. They were pierced with diamond studs! Furtively, I checked to see if they were real, not just stick-on gems or something. Nope, they were real. Someone had shoved a needle through this baby’s earlobes," Amelia said about seeing the baby's earrings for the first time.
The group of moms quickly condemned the earrings and thought it should be the baby's decision when she was older.
Amelia felt uncomfortable about the earrings but also didn't think it was right to start judging the mom.
One said:
“I mean, it’s basically child abuse. What’s next, is the baby going to get a tattoo or something?”
After realizing that her friend was from a different culture, she looked into the traditions and realized many mothers give their babies jewelry when they're young — including earrings.
She also thought it meant that her friends were looking down on the mom, who is Cuban and Mexican.
When Amelia brought up that earrings were part of some families' cultures, her friends still disagreed.
“What if Elena grows up and she’s a huge tomboy, and she doesn’t want earrings? Then she’s got these scars on her earlobes. It should be her choice when she’s old enough to understand that this is a lifetime thing," said one friend.
“But you circumcised your son, right?” Amelia asked the mom.
"Well, yes. What does that have to do with anything? It’s more sanitary. Plus then he won’t feel weird in the locker room,” she said to Amelia.
“Yes, but he didn’t get to make that decision, did he?” Amelia said.
Talk about an epic mic drop, right?
Amelia said that her comment ended the conversation right then and there.
Amelia's story proves that we shouldn't be so quick to judge other parents, especially when we don't have all the information.
h/t: Mom.com