When relationships hit bumps, as they always do, it's not always clear where to turn for advice. Sometimes you need a bit of anonymity, and the internet can actually sometimes be helpful in that regard.
For readers, the r/relationship_advice subreddit is a great source of stories concerning relationship drama.
One such tale involves a secret nose job that became public knowledge, an insecure husband, and a couple's future children hanging in the balance.
Are you ready to dig in? I sure am.
This is how the post begins.
The title summarizes things nicely, but a little more context: OP had a 'hooked' nose when she was young, so she got a nose job. She notes that she regrets getting it and wishes she'd just kept her natural look.
After he saw a pic in her eighth grade yearbook, she spilled the beans.
"He exploded ... he told me it's a betrayal that I married him without telling him that, and now he feels guilty that if we have a child together, that child may get a hooked nose," she wrote.
She wrote this, but it sounds like it kind of might be.
"He...explained he might have a daughter who will be bullied and might never feel beautiful unless she gets surgery, and he is very against cosmetic surgery," wrote OP.
Well, OP asked for advice, and OP received more than 800 pieces of advice.
The top comment explains that while OP's hubby might feel betrayed by the secret, that's all the leeway he should get.
"If he's angry because he's afraid his kids are gonna have an 'ugly hooked nose' or whatever, then he's wrong and immature," they wrote.
"He is so upset that his daughter will have this oh so terrible nose, that you had and got fixed," wrote another Redditor.
"So he wouldn’t have loved you if you never got a nose job? He’s kind of justifying why you got a nose job. Whatever, he’s being a total ass. I’m also team pro nose job."
"Does he realize that your kids could be born with any number of life-threatening or just plain unattractive actual defects and a hooked nose doesn't count as one? Does he realize kids get teased for things other than looks?" explained another comment.
This was the theme of many comments, and it's a fair one. Heck, as one Redditor suggested, OP might not want to have kids, knowing they could have the same propensity for flying off the handle that their dad does.
We'd share some dissenting views here, but honestly, there really aren't any. Pretty much everyone agrees that OP's husband is being weird and unreasonable.
Make sure to check out the thread, and then let us know what you'd do if you were in OP's shoes.
