Buckle up, folks, because we've got a juicy family drama on our hands! 🍿 Meet our protagonist, a 41-year-old wife and mother who's found herself in quite the pickle with her in-laws. Her sister-in-law, Daisy, is a 40-year-old still living at home, and the parents seem to think it's totally cool to pass the responsibility of supporting her onto our leading lady and her husband! 😱 Get ready for a wild ride filled with financial woes, family tensions, and some serious boundary-pushing! 🎢
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🚨 Family Drama Alert: In-Laws Expect Us to Financially Support SIL! 😱
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Meet Daisy: The 40-Year-Old Still Living at Home 🏡
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Parents Foot the Bill While Daisy Splurges 💸
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Daisy's Unnecessary Purchases: New Laptop, Pricey Products, Streaming Galore! 🛍️
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MIL's Shocking Suggestion: "She'll Be Living With You When We're Gone!" 😲
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Frustrated Wife: No One Considers Other Options! 😤
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Worries About SIL's Future: Will She Spend Everything She Inherits? 😰
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Touchy Subject: SIL Walks Out When Moving Out Is Mentioned! 🚶♀️
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WIBTA for Asking In-Laws to Make a Financial Plan for SIL? 🤔
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Family Feud: Should In-Laws Make a Financial Plan for Dependent Daughter?
Well, well, well... looks like we've got ourselves a classic case of family drama! Our protagonist is caught between a rock and a hard place, with her in-laws expecting her and her husband to take on the role of parents for their 40-year-old daughter, Daisy. Daisy's living the high life at home, splurging on unnecessary purchases while her parents foot the bill. But the real kicker? The in-laws are hinting that Daisy will be moving in with our leading lady when they're gone! Yikes! Let's see what the internet has to say about this sticky situation...
Discuss with spouse and set boundaries for financial responsibility 🤝
FragrantEconomist386 | FragrantEconomist386
Stand your ground and have that conversation with your husband. NTA. 👏
BulbasaurRanch | BulbasaurRanch
Engage in AITA spirit: laugh off in-law's joke with witty comebacks 😂
antizana | antizana
Setting boundaries with in-laws. NTA 👍
mdthomas | mdthomas
Set boundaries with retired parents to avoid being financially responsible. 💸
Baron_MM | Baron_MM
Asserting boundaries with in-laws about financial planning, seek spouse's support
empathy10 | empathy10
NTA. Encouraging independent accommodation for grown-up SIL is reasonable 👍
atealein | atealein
NTA. Your MIL treats her daughter like a child. Discuss ASAP.
Banana_Puddin11 | Banana_Puddin11
Communication key for financial planning in family, inheritance uncertain 💰
NewtoFL2 | NewtoFL2
Set boundaries with in-laws about SIL living with you 🚫
Hushes | Hushes
Estate attorney dinner conversation leads to financial planning 👨🎓
charlie1314 | charlie1314
Defending independence with humor and honesty. 😂
C_Majuscula | C_Majuscula
Practical NTA comment advocates open communication to prevent future resentment 👍
PlumpPamela | PlumpPamela
Address the issue now or be prepared to support SIL forever 👍
SatelliteBeach123 | SatelliteBeach123
Setting clear boundaries with in-laws 🙅♀️
nothisTrophyWife | nothisTrophyWife
Trusteeship over a trust is a fair middle ground 🤝
Tallgurrl | Tallgurrl
NTA stands up to retired parents' manipulative 'jokes' about living together 👏
Accomplished-Dog3715 | Accomplished-Dog3715
Suggests creating a trust for sil to learn budgeting 💰
Boo-Boo97 | Boo-Boo97
Stand up for yourself and set boundaries with in-laws. 💪
dncrmom | dncrmom
Grandma's enabling resulted in uncle's struggles at 60. NTA, plan now.
Livetorun123 | Livetorun123
Setting boundaries with adult children about finances 💸
CatchMeIfYouCan09 | CatchMeIfYouCan09
It's important to present a united front with in-laws 👫
BefuddledPolydactyls | BefuddledPolydactyls
Communication is key in creating a financial plan ✆
Goalie_LAX_21093 | Goalie_LAX_21093
Struggling or Comfy? Commenter says daughter is enabled by parents.
LittleMsWhoops | LittleMsWhoops
Setting boundaries with in-laws who won't plan for their daughter 🚫
Lisa_Knows_Best | Lisa_Knows_Best
Establishing boundaries with in-laws and husband to avoid enabling.
No_Astronaut2795 | No_Astronaut2795
Set boundaries with husband first before talking to in-laws. 💑
giantbrownguy | giantbrownguy
Setting boundaries with in-laws about caring for SIL 👍
Beck2010 | Beck2010
Ignoring the inevitable won't make it go away 🚫. NTA.
KimB-booksncats-11 | KimB-booksncats-11
Setting boundaries with family can lead to positive outcomes 👍
Professional-Bear114 | Professional-Bear114
NTA takes a stand against spoiling SIL, offers practical solutions 👍
noonecaresat805 | noonecaresat805
Setting boundaries with family members is hard but necessary. 🤝
Chronza | Chronza
Similar story shared, empathizes with OP's situation and lack of resolution.
max_power1000 | max_power1000
Sibling warns of consequences when parents don't plan finances 💸
LessMention9 | LessMention9
Enabling financial ignorance won't end well. Set up a trust 💸
briomio | briomio
Suggest confronting the parents with humor and concern 😊
After_Hovercraft7808 | After_Hovercraft7808
NTA comment warns against potential financial burden, urges action. 👍
strange_dog_TV | strange_dog_TV
Encouraging independence and budgeting skills 💰
Prudent-Reserve4612 | Prudent-Reserve4612
Cousin's wife stood up for herself and her family 💪🏼
travelkmac | travelkmac
Approach the topic with empathy and understanding 💜
SophieSquishy | SophieSquishy
Encouraging NTA commenter advises setting expectations for SIL's financial responsibility 💰
BeardManMichael | BeardManMichael
Don't wait to discuss this - address it now! 💬
1-Dragonfly | 1-Dragonfly
Spouse must take a stand against entitled sister-in-law 🤯
TossingPasta | TossingPasta
NTA commenter sympathizes but suggests it's not worth worrying about.
DorceeB | DorceeB
Spouse should set boundaries with his family, not you. Good luck! 💪
melissapony | melissapony
Planning for the future is important to avoid financial burden 💸
AnfreloSt-Da | AnfreloSt-Da
Setting boundaries with retired parents who won't plan finances 👇
Chipchop666 | Chipchop666
Setting boundaries: commenter warns parents of potential consequences 🚫
redralphie | redralphie
Planning for the future of adult children with disabilities 👍
ShotTreacle8209 | ShotTreacle8209
Communication is key! Talk to your husband about sister's situation.
Y2Flax | Y2Flax
NTA suggests selling house, setting up trust for sister's inheritance.
9smalltowngirl | 9smalltowngirl
Encouraging tough love approach to teach financial independence 💪
FairyFartDaydreams | FairyFartDaydreams
Daughter not responsible for parents' future care and vacation bills. 💰
Mustng1966 | Mustng1966
Planning for SIL's future may affect marriage and family dynamics 🤔
Born-Damage-2911 | Born-Damage-2911
Suggesting a trust and annuity for entitled daughter's future 💸
JlazyY | JlazyY
Humorous approach to dealing with difficult in-laws 👌😂
Eastern_Condition863 | Eastern_Condition863
In-laws want to shirk responsibility for 40-year-old daughter 🤷♀️, commenter advises against it.
GlassObject4443 | GlassObject4443
Spouse's financial priorities causing strain on marriage 💰
BunnySlayer64 | BunnySlayer64
Husband's involvement in financial planning causing concern 🨔
Critical-Vegetable26 | Critical-Vegetable26
Politely decline and avoid getting involved. YWBTA 👍
External-Hamster-991 | External-Hamster-991
Spouse's reluctance to address SIL's dependency is a dealbreaker. NTA 👍
Jallenrix | Jallenrix
Protect yourself from a parasitic sibling before it's too late 👍
mynameisnotsparta | mynameisnotsparta
Setting boundaries is key 🔑. Make it clear she's not your responsibility.
meeksworth | meeksworth
Discussing in-laws' finances: YWBTA if you interfere. Let husband handle.
fuzzy_mic | fuzzy_mic
Enabling leads to lack of motivation 🚫 NTA, stop enabling.
Dependent_Lion4812 | Dependent_Lion4812
NTA. Spouse needs to be on same page re: SIL moving in 👨👩👧
JustmyOpinion444 | JustmyOpinion444
Family feud over inheritance and financial dependency 🤔
EntrepreneurAmazing3 | EntrepreneurAmazing3
Stand up for yourself and don't let others dictate decisions 💪
chocolate_chip_kirsy | chocolate_chip_kirsy
Encouraging independence while protecting oneself and family 👍
socal1959 | socal1959
Suggests setting boundaries and creating a savings account for daughter 💰
Mrs_WorkingMuggle | Mrs_WorkingMuggle
Stand your ground and confront the parents. 💪 It's not a joke.
harbinger06 | harbinger06
Planning for a dependent relative is crucial 💸🚫
Historical_Carpet262 | Historical_Carpet262
NTA. Set boundaries and stick to them with husband's support 👍
ChonkButt510 | ChonkButt510
Setting boundaries with in-laws for SIL's financial independence. 💰
NotSoAverage_sister | NotSoAverage_sister
Setting boundaries for a sibling does not make you an a**hole 💪
Dramatic_Asparagus75 | Dramatic_Asparagus75
Set boundaries with in-laws, you're NTA for not enabling them 👏
Noneya_Biddness | Noneya_Biddness
Sibling agrees with OP's plan to discuss finances with parents. 👍
Faexora | Faexora
Asserting boundaries with humor to entitled parents. NTA 👏
mifflewhat | mifflewhat
NTA OP suggested a professional trustee managing a trust fund for Daisy.
Velma_Xanadu | Velma_Xanadu
Discussing inheritance options for middle-aged daughter with financial caution ⚠️
InteractionNo9110 | InteractionNo9110
Plan ahead for cohabitation: important talk to have with parents 👥
ReaderRabbit23 | ReaderRabbit23
Heartless comment mocks financial struggle of 40-year-old daughter.
Adultarescence | Adultarescence
A harsh judgment of a 40-year-old woman depending on parents.
King_Yahoo | King_Yahoo
Spouse's parents refuse plan for adult child 💸🚫
Midlife_Crisis_46 | Midlife_Crisis_46
NTA. Discussion needed with husband and in-laws about SIL's future 🤝
3Heathens_Mom | 3Heathens_Mom
Daughter's financial responsibility, not parents'. Confrontation necessary 👊
Practical_Reindeer23 | Practical_Reindeer23
Suggesting a trust to manage inheritance for independent daughter 👍
Mindless_Browsing15 | Mindless_Browsing15
