Get ready for a heart-wrenching tale of brotherly love, promises, and the struggle to help a sibling in crisis. 😢 This story is a rollercoaster of emotions that will have you questioning what you would do in this impossible situation. Buckle up, because we're diving deep into the complex world of addiction, mental health, and family dynamics. 🎢
Deathbed Vow TESTED: 'I Promised Mom I'd Help My Addict Brother... But I Can't Take It Anymore' 😔
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😢 A Heartbreaking Promise to Mom
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🧠 The Struggles of a Learning Disability
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👷♂️ A Decent Job, but Darkness Looms
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💸 Parents Enabling Destructive Behavior
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😡 A Hateful, Angry Shell of a Man
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💔 Loneliness and a Broken Heart
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😭 Relying on Parents for Emotional Support
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🏚️ Damaging the Family Home
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🩺 Attempts at Professional Help
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🧠 Diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder
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☎️ Crisis Calls and Long Drives
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🚗 Suffering Through His Caustic Presence
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🍽️ A Proper Homemade Meal Gone Wrong
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🍺 A Drunken Rampage in the Night
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🚨 On the Verge of Calling the Police
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🚫 Setting Rough Boundaries for Safety
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📞 Constant Calls and Accusations of Abandonment
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🙅♂️ No In-Person Contact Until He Gets Help
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😞 Breaking a Promise and Worrying About the Future
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🤔 AITA for Not Helping Him More?
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😞 Torn Between a Promise and Personal Safety
This story is a gut-wrenching look at the challenges of helping a loved one battling addiction and mental health issues. The author is caught between a promise made to his mother and the harsh realities of his brother's destructive behavior. Despite countless attempts to help, including long drives, crisis calls, and even a homemade meal, the brother's actions have left the author and his wife feeling unsafe in their own home. Now, the author is setting tough boundaries, limiting contact until his brother gets the help he needs. But the guilt of potentially breaking a promise to his late mother weighs heavily on his heart. 😢 Let's see what the internet has to say about this heartbreaking dilemma... 🤔
Encouraging comment on supporting an addict brother after loss 👍
KenGriffinsMomSucks | KenGriffinsMomSucks
Set realistic boundaries and seek support from AA/NA. NTA 👍
Cryptographer_Alone | Cryptographer_Alone
Don't blame yourself for not being able to help. 🙏
kendrickshalamar | kendrickshalamar
Enabling won't help him. Let him fail and take responsibility. 🙏
PurpleToad1976 | PurpleToad1976
Enabling vs helping: a tough love approach 🤔
Danube_Kitty | Danube_Kitty
Setting boundaries isn't abandonment. You're supporting him in healthier ways. ✌️
Mean-Impress2103 | Mean-Impress2103
Protect yourself and your family before he hurts them. 🚨
Auntienursey | Auntienursey
Setting boundaries is important. Low contact is the way 👍
ivyjade42 | ivyjade42
Setting boundaries is important for your mental health and his recovery 🙏
Ok-Equipment-8771 | Ok-Equipment-8771
Setting boundaries is not abandonment. Enabling won't help him 👍
journeyintopressure | journeyintopressure
Supportive comment encourages letting go of addict brother. 👏
lapsangsouchogn | lapsangsouchogn
Setting clear conditions can help, don't repeat parents' mistakes 👍
Flat_Contribution707 | Flat_Contribution707
Take charge of your life! Don't enable others 💪
2_old_for_this_spit | 2_old_for_this_spit
Tough love is hard but necessary for addicts to recover 💪
Perfect-Day-3431 | Perfect-Day-3431
Cut ties with unsafe brother despite deathbed promise 🚫
jess1804 | jess1804
Take action to protect yourself and family from addict brother. NTA. 🙏
NotSorry2019 | NotSorry2019
Loving but not liking an addict brother 😔
Sloth_grl | Sloth_grl
Establishing boundaries with a BPD sibling 😔
Ylfrettub-79 | Ylfrettub-79
Set boundaries and be honest. NTA 👍
Kampfzwerg0 | Kampfzwerg0
Don't let a deathbed promise hold you hostage. #NTA 🙏
Think-Ocelot-4025 | Think-Ocelot-4025
Unfair promise to help an addict brother, NTA for setting boundaries
JudgeJed100 | JudgeJed100
Setting boundaries for loved ones can be tough. NTA 🙏
TimeSummer5 | TimeSummer5
Protecting yourself and your wife is a priority 🙏. Walking away may be the right choice.
G8kE3pR | G8kE3pR
Set firm boundaries and stick to them. Rooting for you ❤️
CakeZealousideal1820 | CakeZealousideal1820
Suggest social services to help him, onus on him not you 👍
rokohemda | rokohemda
Enabling won't help. Research how to aid him instead. 👍
bigrottentuna | bigrottentuna
Recovering addict explains enabling and the harsh truth. NTA 👍
girlwiththemonkey | girlwiththemonkey
The heartbreaking struggle of cutting off a troubled sibling ❤
Apprehensive_Eye1835 | Apprehensive_Eye1835
Cutting ties with addict brother to prioritize wife is reasonable. #NTA 👍
Madalice58 | Madalice58
Balancing family and marriage is tough 🤔
jazzy3113 | jazzy3113
Don't let guilt control you, he's not your responsibility 🙏
ReadyHelp9049 | ReadyHelp9049
No obligation to care for a grown-ass adult. 👍
fbombmom_ | fbombmom_
Choose to live differently in her memory. Firmly set boundaries. 👏
e72c | e72c
Setting boundaries with an addict brother. Tough but necessary 🙌
Competitive_Drop_326 | Competitive_Drop_326
Set boundaries and prioritize your own healing and relationships. NTA 👍
amthemama | amthemama
Setting boundaries with addict brother, support wife. NTA 👍
Scav-STALKER | Scav-STALKER
Setting boundaries and tough love is sometimes necessary for support. 👍
SapphireSigma | SapphireSigma
OP's brother needs intensive inpatient therapy, NTA for setting boundaries 🙏
CrazyChickenLady223 | CrazyChickenLady223
Caring for your brother does not mean sacrificing your own life 🙏
OPsBioMom | OPsBioMom
Sibling struggle: NTA for prioritizing own well-being over brother's addiction. 🙏
OtherAccount5252 | OtherAccount5252
Breaking promises made under duress can be necessary. NTA 👍
Alienne8r | Alienne8r
Deathbed promises can unnecessarily burden loved ones. Stand up for yourself 👏
MeMeMeOnly | MeMeMeOnly
Prioritize yourself! You're not abandoning him, you're stopping enabling. 🙌
tats76 | tats76
Tough love advised 💪🏼 Time for brother to grow up 🙄
babigrl50 | babigrl50
Setting boundaries with addict brother, NTA. Consider calling a rehab.
MWBurbman | MWBurbman
Addict brother needs rehab & accountability. NTA for setting boundaries. 🙏
Responsible_Post_388 | Responsible_Post_388
Supportive comment acknowledges the difficulty of dealing with an addict sibling.
CanyonCoyote | CanyonCoyote
Helping addicts is tough, NTA. Self-help is the key.
No_Cryptographer4806 | No_Cryptographer4806
You can only do so much. Encourage rehab for him.
arsapeek | arsapeek
Cutting ties and making him accountable is tough love 💔
CarrotBackground4231 | CarrotBackground4231
Encouraging words for supporting a struggling loved one 👍
Kerrypurple | Kerrypurple
Prioritizing mental health is important 🙌
LustyFireFly | LustyFireFly
Helpful advice for dealing with destructive/addictive behavior 👍
sandim123 | sandim123
Cutting off toxic family members is sometimes necessary. NTA 🙌
BlackoutMeatCurtains | BlackoutMeatCurtains
Al-Anon is helpful, but remember, you can't save an addict 🚨
CaterpillarNo6795 | CaterpillarNo6795
Stop enabling bad behavior, it's the only way to help 🙏
Pagan_Knight | Pagan_Knight
Enabling an addict is not helping. You're NTA for stopping.
Mountain-Camp2626 | Mountain-Camp2626
Al-Anon meetings can give you the support you need 🙏
Kitchen_Lecture_2203 | Kitchen_Lecture_2203
Protect your home environment for your wife & marriage. NTA 👍
R_U_N4me | R_U_N4me
Putting yourself first isn't selfish. NTA 🙏
DevilGuy | DevilGuy
Suggesting concrete steps for helping a disabled addict brother. 👍
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Setting boundaries is important for mental health and safety. 🙌
TabularConferta | TabularConferta
Take care of yourself first 🙏🏻 It's not your responsibility alone.
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Encouraging advice for setting boundaries with addict family members 👍
Savings-Library-1142 | Savings-Library-1142
Don't set yourself on fire to keep him warm. 🔥
Dachshundmom5 | Dachshundmom5
Protect yourself, interacting only hurts. NTA 🙌
IanDOsmond | IanDOsmond
Tough love is sometimes the best love. 👍
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Enabling an addict brother: tough love or abandonment? 🤔
Successful_Moment_91 | Successful_Moment_91
No obligation to take care of an abusive/dangerous brother. NTA 👍
theVelvetJackalope | theVelvetJackalope
Enabling addiction won't make it better, NTA 👍
MeanSeaworthiness995 | MeanSeaworthiness995
Set boundaries and prioritize your immediate family's safety 👍
loseunclecuntly | loseunclecuntly
Detachment is key. Letting go doesn't mean you don't care 🙏
doctoralstudent1 | doctoralstudent1
Boundaries and expectations are important in helping without enabling, NTA 👍
Few_Night7735 | Few_Night7735
Don't enable him to continue living without consequences. Take care! 🙌
SheShouldGo | SheShouldGo
Enabling an addict doesn't help, it just sends the wrong message 👍
GrooveBat | GrooveBat
Choosing to walk away from your addict brother is tough. 💔
control-alt-7 | control-alt-7
Attending AL-ANON can help realize what's best for addict brother 🙏
LoveMeorLeaveMe89 | LoveMeorLeaveMe89
You made a promise, but you don't have to risk everything 🤔
Lopsided_Intention57 | Lopsided_Intention57
Don't sacrifice yourself for someone who won't change. 🙌
Iamstaceylynn | Iamstaceylynn
Experience-based advice on helping an addict brother. NTA.
ribbons_undone | ribbons_undone
Tough love is hard, but necessary for self-preservation. NTA 👍
LRD4000 | LRD4000
Enabling an addict can be deadly, sometimes tough love helps 💔
aClassyRabbit | aClassyRabbit
Don't enable him. Get help before it's too late. ⚠️
PNWraizedmomma | PNWraizedmomma
Be accountable for your brother, not an enabler. NTA 💪
titania670 | titania670
Don't enable his addiction, call the authorities and stay safe. 👍
cplmomma2004 | cplmomma2004
Don't let your parents make you an enabler 🙏
Nonnie2323 | Nonnie2323
