24 People Reveal The Moment They Knew Their Relationship Was Over

Diply 8 May 2018

Some relationships are meant to come to an end. Some fizzle out, some end over mutual agreement, some end over fights. But for many of us, when we look back on a relationship that has ended, we can recall the exact moment we knew it was over.

These people from Reddit revealed the moment they knew, and it's as heartbreaking as you'd imagine.

1. If someone is making you cry, they probably aren't worth being with anymore.

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"When I realized that I was sitting in the dark crying over the same problems I had been sitting in the dark crying over a year before.

365 days and nothing had changed."

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2. No one should force themselves to be with someone.

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"When my phone vibrated and I didn't hope it was him anymore and I had to make a conscious effort when talking to him. It didn't come naturally anymore."

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3. Thinking about the future should be exciting, not dreadful.

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"When I thought about our future together and realized the idea of marrying him and starting a family filled me with dread. I very much wanted both of those things for myself, but I knew it would never work with him."

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4. Never stay with someone just for the sake of it.

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"When I looked at him and thought, 'Maybe we should just keep dating until both of us find people we'd actually like to be with.'"

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5. No one deserves to be anything but a first choice.

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"When I realized he still didn't care about me as much as he cared about 'the one who got away' and he didn't argue it when I asked if we should break up. It still sucks."

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6. It's pretty bad if you have no excuse not to see your partner.

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"When I cancelled a date because of no other reason than that I just didn't want to hang out with him."

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7. Ouch.

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"When he told me he was feeling nostalgic so I started to talk about the way we used to talk to each other back when we were closer and he replied with, 'Mittmatt, that's a black hole in time. I love you, but I don't miss it. Those were just days... Time stopped after summer and the rest is just the same day replaying itself. My nostalgia has nothing to do with us.'

Yeah, that stung a bit."

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8. Can't argue with a feeling that strong.

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"We went on a weekend trip to go to see a Calvin Harris show. It was almost like one last effort to make things work. We were together at the show the entire time except for 3 minutes when I had to go to the bathroom. The second I left, he played 'sweet nothing' which was our song. When I got back to my girlfriend, she was crying because it really felt like things were over then."

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9. Hopefully you find someone who appreciates those gestures.

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"When all my romantic spontaneous gestures stop being romantic and are annoying to her instead; holding doors open, surprise flowers, surprise tickets to whatever show, fancy home made dinner. The moment you realize that kissing and holding hands becomes a chore for her that's when you know it's over. Wasted a good 8 years doing those things and thought we'd get married but people change I guess."

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10. Why would he be okay with you going a date with someone else?!

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"It started with small signs. I came home from work, asked her how her days was and she responded jovially with: 'I went out on a date to a Cubs game.' Naturally, I was not happy and she began to call me closed minded. She was a greeter for a bar in Chicago, and some random customer walked up to her and asked her if she wanted to go to the game with him, she obliged.

As the weeks went on she began spending less and less time at our apartment. When I had to twist her arm to spend my birthday with me... I guess I knew the relationship was over..."

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11. When it's all you can think about, it's a sign.

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"When in my free time I would find my mind wandering into the conversation of the break up and try to find the right words.. took months for me to realize that's what I really wanted."

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12. Your subconscious knows more than you do.

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"When you get that horrible anxious feeling in your stomach when nothing is even wrong, you're not hiding anything, you're not arguing, you just know you will be for some reason at some point."

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13. People change, but real love accepts who that person becomes. Otherwise, it's over.

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"If you're more in love with the memories than the person in front of you, it's over."

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14. You shouldn't feel like you are always doing something wrong. It's exhausting and not healthy.

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"When I realized I always blamed myself and apologized for things that were out of my control."

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15. No words.

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"When my dad was arrested and extradited to another state, I was going through a ton of stress. Not only was I in grad school and working two jobs, I was the one who understood the lawyers the most, it was up to me to make the 1500 mile trips for court appearances because my family and I agreed I was the one that should go. One day, while having a nervous breakdown after a fight with my boyfriend at the time because he wasn't being supportive, he says, 'at times like this I'm glad your dad is going to prison for the rest of his life. You are so spoiled by him.'"

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16. You should be comforting her and reassuring her. She clearly loves you.

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"When I cried because I thought we were going to break up and he laughed in my face."

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17. There's keeping your phone on you, and then there's making sure it's never out of your sight.

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"When she lied about every thing she was doing and kept her phone with her 24/7."

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18. I can't imagine how that would have hurt.

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"When I tried to kiss him and he pulled away for the millionth time. He will probably never know how much that hurt me. I felt like he didn't want me, that showing physical affection was a chore."

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19. You can't force it.

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"With my last GF when she called me and when I knew it was her and didn't pick it up and when she called me again I picked it up by accident and invented an excuse not to talk to her. I knew then I couldn't stand her anymore. I should have broken up with her way before that though, my fault."

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20. Helping each other out shouldn't be a job.

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"This sounds a little ridiculous, but I went out of town for a weekend and asked her to stop by and feed my kitty a couple times and she replied 'Are you going to pay me?' The fact that she's incapable of doing something nice without benefiting herself, made me almost immediately resent her. I knew after two years that reply was going to end it."

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21. Dump him now!

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"Two days ago. He snapped at me on the ride home after my abortion. I was ashamed and exhausted. He was annoyed the appointment had finished early and interrupted his nap."

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22. You shouldn't have to beg your partner to be there.

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"When I realized I was doing all the work in the relationship. I'd make a date, and he just won't show up. The worst was on my birthday. I sat on the park bench for 2 hours waiting and he didn't even have the decency to call me. I must have looked pathetic sobbing alone on a park bench but I was really distraught."

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23. Good riddance, I say!

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"When, shortly after taking me on a romantic trip to Europe, he came downstairs one morning and calmly told me to grab my things so that he could drop me off at my folks' place. He mailed the rest of my stuff to my mother."

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24. You should be with someone who makes it easy.

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"When I stopped trying to make her happy, and only put in enough effort to keep her happy. I would only call because it was expected, not because I genuinely wanted to talk to her. I would only reciprocate feelings and gestures, rarely initiate them. It was a ****** feeling that I didn't enjoy, but I couldn't help it."

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